My personal journey from pro-life to pro-choice
Someone who was commenting on another person’s blog called me out on my pro-choice position. They lopped some of my personal stories, exchanged when we used to be friends and misinformation about over-population as their reason.
To go into it a bit of background, I was adopted as a baby. My biological mother didn’t want me, to put it somewhat bluntly. It was probably because she already had two other children and no money to raise them, but nevertheless, what I felt as a child was rejected. In addition, my adoptive mother was mentally ill, which led to this pain in my childhood and even continuing to adulthood.
Now, there was a time when I thought that if my bio mother had had the option, I would not be here, and I really like being here. If for no reason, because I have an extreme case of nosiness. I was told, often, that I was hard to get to go to sleep because I was afraid I would miss something.
So, at one time, the idea of a woman getting an abortion was almost a threat…I wouldn’t be here, wouldn’t have had a chance at learning and growing. However, over time, I realized the poverty that some live in is far greater than what I endured although we were very very poor.
At least, I was in an environment where I didn’t get exposed to gangs and was encouraged to continue my education in college. That allowed me to enter a new world. That doesn’t happen for everybody. Some children and I have two cousins in mind, that are raised in abject poverty with a mother on drugs. The mother actually refused to let her son continue to go to school after the 6th grade because she was afraid he would fall on the steps at the high school. I can’t imagine he has a great successful life with a well-paying job.
Now, there are two or three arguments that so-called pro-lifers use to justify their hard and fast rule denying women the right to choose. One is that it is killing an actual baby. That is a religious position, and religion is not what this country operates on. We are NOT a theocracy so it is an invalid argument. The second is that “we need more babies”. Well, I am not at all sure we do for reasons I will give below.
First of all, we do have more people on the planet than we can take care of, well. The fact that we live in one of those countries that are more sparsely populated doesn’t negate the fact that worldwide, we are a very crowded planet. That is especially horrible when we realize that places that often have the larger numbers of people also have the least ability to sustain those persons. While the United States might be a little less crowded than some other parts of the world, we only have one planet for all of us. A planet that is getting less and less capable of adjusting to humanity’s sprawl due to climate upheaval.
The United States, like every other industrialized country, has lower birth rates because fewer children are needed. That has been true for some time. Even 60 years ago, when I was a child, a family with 10 children was considered a weird freak of nature and a little weird. World population is still an issue because some countries are still continuing to have a large birth rate because so many children die in childhood, and they need children to keep the farm going.
So, with these things being considered, I am pro-choice because as I may have mentioned, if the fetus that became me had been aborted, I wouldn’t be here and the question wouldn’t matter to me. And secondly, isn’t it wrong to force a woman to carry a baby that she either does not want or is poorly equipped to handle for nine months? Especially since there are so often fetuses that are carried to term and then have very little of life, ending up dying relatively young due to gang violence or abuse of some sort?
When we solve the social services issues in such a way as to guarantee every child a decent loving home with a decent level of living, women need to be given the right to choose for themselves what they allow within the confines of their bodies. Meanwhile, any laws will impact the poor more than the rich, and there will still be women getting abortions. Likely some of them will be the equal of coat hangers in back alleys where both the fetus and the woman may die. I lost one possible cousin to something similar in that my aunt took something that caused the baby when born to be extremely deformed. Desperate women will do desperate things.
As I mentioned in a previous article, not even all Christian churches are anti-choice so it can’t be anything but an imposition of a certain BRAND of Christian thought to use the “fetus as baby” rhetoric to mandate anti-choice.
KEEP ABORTION LEGAL…..and work to make it less often needed.