a trump is a trump is a trump…and that includes Melania
The title is the bottom line summary for Stephanie Winston Wolkoff’s book about her relationship with the trumps, including Melania. It speaks to the issue more concisely and clearly, than any number of words could convey. However, that is not enough words to justify a blog so I will add more background.
The book starts off referencing the fact that Stephanie and Melania were “friends” for something like 15 years. And yes, I put the word “friend” in quotes because as the story goes along, you very slowly but surely come to realize that the friendly feelings and concern were all on one side…Stephanie’s. For Melania, it becomes slowly clear that Stephanie is someone that she sees as a benefit to her image and standing and a good tool to have in her arsenal.
Do I believe Stephanie? Yes, because her story is the same story that Michael Cohen would now share with the world, as have many other people that have known the trumps for years in business and in day to day life. It is not too big a leap to come to the conclusion that anybody who would actually seek to marry a man without the ability to have any genuine compassion or humility would likely be the same themselves. How else would they be able to stomach such a person on a day to day basis?
In addition to trying to get a real program going for bullied children, Stephanie also tried to get Melania to see that doing things to spite “the liberals” was ultimately a self-defeating strategy. If people are pre-disposed to think badly of you, you don’t do additional things to make them dislike you. You try to realize the truth that politics is largely about appearances and nuances.
Giving two examples, on one occasion Melania picked a white suit. The other occasion was that insensitive “I don’t care” jacket. Since white was the fashion feature of choice by the Democrats at that time, wearing white fueled the whole discussion of “is Melania protesting her husband's abuse”. And we all know what that horrible jacket created when worn to a place where children were being held in concentration camp conditions.
Yet, Melania would respond that “I wear what I want to wear, I don’t care what anything thinks”. That is precisely the point, as the First Lady, she needs to care about the message that she is sending out. The fact that she didn’t and doesn’t explain why the only conclusion one can reasonably come to is that she DOESN’T care, and who she DOESN’T care about is pretty much anybody but herself, her mother and Barron, and possibly the man in the oval office.
What frustrated me about Stephanie is that even knowing all that, seeing it daily, she still thought that Melania was something different. She had been warned by several people to not work for the inauguration. But despite the warnings, she proceeded to jump in head first, regardless of all the resistance she got from many others involved, to not only work to put on the Inauguration but to continue to work as a special adviser to the Melania in developing what was announced as the “Be Best” program to help children.
But then I have to remember that sometimes it takes me a while to get the message too. Just recently, I have faced the fact that someone I thought was a friend really wasn’t. I immediately, upon the message registering, threw their phone number away, and have no plans to even start any conversations if I run into them again out in public. But it still seemed to take Stephanie a long time to realize that.
What finally got the message though? The timing of two articles released to the New York Times that said that she got 27 million and that her contract had ended implying that she had taken the money and the trumps were ticked. Melania’s response was to say nothing, let Stephanie hang out to dry, and then tell her “you worry too much, you have talked to your lawyers, haven’t you”.
Finally, Stephanie saw the light. Melania was no friend in the true sense, and apparently the jacket spoke the truth, she really cares…about anybody but herself and her own comfort and having her way, her son, her mother, and presumably her husband.
Melania and DJT deserve each other, the rest of us do NOT and yes, that includes Stephanie and even Michael Cohen. Oh, and by the way, Stephanie indicates that she, unlike Melania, is actually trying to follow through on the idea of ending bullying and enabling children to be seen AND heard.